Training Horses - 30 Day Fast Track - Day 1

 Training Horses - 

30 Day Fast Track - Day 1

30 Day Relationship Fast Track. The first day is today! Here are the key things I have learned from today's lesson. 

Lesson 1: Building a Positive Association in Your Horse's Mind - The Relationship Bank Account

1. I want Lilly to think, "Hi, mama! So happy to see you! What are we gonna do today?"
2. I want to spend time everyday with Lilly that is undemanding time. Just sitting together and being together. 
3. I am the creator of the relationship between me and Lilly
4. Need to develop a relationship bank account 
• always keep it in the plus (NEVER go into minus)
• Things that take points out
• Vet visit (injections - random punishment)
• Ferrier (scary person touching them)
• Deworming (yucky worm paste - random punishment)
• Competitions 
• Stressful experiences
• Things we don't think about
• inability to set fair consistent limits
• pushing horse past physical, mental, emotional abilities
• ignorant towards your horse's fear and when it is really trying
• letting horse walk all over you
• some will make you pay more than others 
• how much does Lilly make me pay for different events
• Things that adds points
• be horse's provider
• bring hay, pasture, water, daily concentrate food
• brought horse something really nice to eat after the session
• be your horse's protector
• protect horse from bullies in the herd
• protect horse from purple man in the bush
• rub neck, walk in front, between horse and purple man, help horse discover that it is not going to hurt her
• be your horse's entertainer
• mares not as playful overall
• be interesting
• be the comforter
• that when you come and spend time - find itchy spots, where to be rubbed and patted
• go grazing
• be really present with horse
• feel your horse be completely present
• hang out with horse
• eat with horse
• be with each other
• be part of the herd
• normal part of everyday life
• have nice sessions with your horse

First assignment 

1. start filling the bank
2. spend undemanding time with Lilly
3. expect nothing of Lilly
4. when/if Lilly wants to be close to me
1. Learn to feel your personal boundaries
• listen to my inner voice
• be UNMOVEABLE
• helicopter rope
• thank horse when listens
2. find her itchy spots
3. give lots of scratches and be Lilly's grooming buddy
5. do the things she loves to do
6. Post in Facebook group
• What's Lilly's favorite itchy spot?
• What kind of interaction does Lilly like?
• What kind of type am I?
• playful/peaceful
• How do I feel about the aspect of personal boundaries? Was it easy? Did I feel uncomfortable? How did Lilly react and accept?

Today I start my relationship journey with Lilly. I am so excited. 

Day 1!!!!!!! Lilly arrived today! We had an amazing few hours together!

what's your horses favourite itchy spot?

So far she LOVES her butt scratched and she likes nice firm scratches! I also helped her helped her scratch her itchy parts and she would nibble me with her lips (mutual grooming?) it was so sweet and wonderful

What kind of interaction does your horse like?

Right now she is settling in and I gave her her supplements in a slow feeder and groomed her while she ate. She seemed to like it.

What kind of type are you: Playful inviting or peaceful?

I’m peaceful

Are you inviting your horse to bite? No! I don’t think so. She only put her mouth on me gently for mutable grooming

Are you too quiet and your horse actually pushes you around or do you have too much energy and your horse is sceptical to approach you?

She was a pushy but I pushed back and she accepted it peacefully!

How did you feel about the aspect of personal boundaries?

It was a little hard at first - she is not small - but I also knew not to let her move me so o stood my ground and pushed her away. When I tried to push her back from the grain she really really didn’t understand! I’m gonna try to get a video so you can see what I’m doing. I’m gonna try it a little different tonight.

Was it easy for you?

It was not easy. I was worried I was going to damage our very new relationship - but I also knew she needed boundaries so I stuck with it

Did you feel uncomfortable?

Yes when I was leading her for the first time I was definitely uncomfortable and didn’t know what I was doing it’s been a very long time since I lead a horse - it was not good! I decently need to work on this. How do I get teach her to lead? She knows but she definitely does not walk nicely next to me.

How did you horse react and accept?

She was resistive because I could tell she didn’t understand - but did accept it eventually when I was giving her her supplements.

She accepted me moving her out of my space all other times. She didn’t understand the rope technique at all. I’m gonna have to bring the stick. Or work on my rope skills.

So many golden nuggets!!!! And she had a good roll!!!!!

Videos and Pictures from our first day together